To have unrelenting standards can be difficult for those around us, because it’s rare that we are physically or emotionally present. Even when we are “there”, we’re often distracted with thoughts of what needs doing. This schema often leads to workaholism, as well as alcohol dependency because there is no way we can switch off unless we use some kind of mind-numbing substance.
This inability to fully relax and be present in the moment stops us from having fun, feeling joy, satisfaction, contentment and the experience of feeling fully alive and engaged. Because of this, we are susceptible to feelings of emptiness, loneliness and depression in the long term.
· I always feel short on time, no matter how hard I work
· I’m burdened with a constant feeling of stress and pressure
· Everything needs to be done to a very high standard
· I feel the need to perform better than others
· I find it difficult to “switch off” and relax
· My relationships suffer due to my inability to stop working and pushing myself
· I tend to drink more than I should, as a way to switch off from work or stress
· No matter how hard I work, there’s always more stuff that needs to be done
· I’m so wound up all the time, and it’s beginning to take its toll on my health
· I get irritable and annoyed extremely easily
Unrelenting standards schema is very common among successful, career-driven individuals who have pushed themselves hard to succeed but are ultimately left unsatisfied or disillusioned with the result. It tends to develop in families where one’s value is attributed to their achievements, and very little importance is placed on emotions.
At Your Psychologist in Elsternwick, we offer unrelenting standards schema treatment that provides permanent solutions. We are also well-versed in helping our clients work through a variety of other damaging mindsets, including abandonment schema, dependence schema, subjugation schema and vulnerability schema.
At Your Psychologist, we are here to help. To speak with a professional member of our friendly team today, please contact us and we’ll be happy to arrange a consultation.
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