In the long term, this lack of emotional support as a child leads us to feel like we don't matter, and this causes a rift or sense of disconnection to the people around us. From here, people living with emotional deprivation schema typically head down one of two paths.
Either we convince ourselves that there must be something wrong with us; that we are flawed or defective in some fundamental way, resulting in the Defectiveness & Shame schema.
Or alternatively, we start acting in ways that will make us feel better about ourselves by impressing others, and the Approval Seeking schema is born.
Another common off-shoot of emotional deprivation is Self-Sacrifice schema, where we constantly put others people’s needs first in order to feel significant and worthwhile. Our sense of self-worth is derived solely from how valuable we are to others, and this is the heart of Co-dependency.
The first step to overcoming emotional deprivation schema is simply recognising how it’s playing out in your life. This schema never comes alone, so we encourage you to look through the other schemas to identify your specific symptoms of emotional deprivation schema.
By first working on these secondary schemas, you can get to the root of emotional deprivation and begin to heal. At Your Psychologist in Elsternwick, we can help you work through this process and ultimately overcome your emotional deprivation schema through therapy.
Whether you are trapped in unhealthy patterns as a result of abandonment schema, dependence schema, unrelenting standards schema, vulnerability schema or another negative headspace, Your Psychologist is here to help.
It’s normal for people living with emotional deprivation schema to think they don’t have anyone to rely on for advice, guidance or support. However, this is simply not true – we are highly experienced in helping people work through their emotional deprivation schemas and achieve a happier, more carefree lifestyle.
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